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James.

I wanted to let you guys know that I am on the verge of releasing a NEW and EXPANDED version of my ebook, How To Get A Girlfriend. This should be coming out in the next few weeks, as I am literally putting the finishing touches on it! We are very excited for this here at CEIC, as I think this latest version takes things to an entirely new level. Since I have learned so much since the book’s launch nearly two years ago, I thought I should update it.

In the new version is A LOT more on approaching women. The current version gives you the basics on this, but the newer edition will go into A LOT more detail. In it, I basically take you by the hand and lead you into mastery of THREE totally different, and shockingly effective ways to meet women.

Another topic that I cover thoroughly is LEADERSHIP. Truthfully, if you want a girlfriend, understanding the dynamics of your social circle is imperative. Most guys meet new women through their friends, colleagues and other acquaintances. It is extremely rare to meet someone “right” for you via a cold approach. I always liken that to walking blindfolded into a forest and trying to shoot the bird on the highest branch on the third tree to your left behind the large rock encumbered by leaves…I think you see what I mean…

So, since it is fresh on my mind, I thought I would discuss leadership here on the blog, as it is very important to assuming power in your social life and your social circle.

If you really want to expand your social circle, you will have to take the lead and make it happen. Your friends may or may not be interested in meeting new people. Your friends may or may not be interested on growing out of their comfort zone. That is why it is so important for you to be willing to go out alone – particularly if it is something you really want to see, or experience. Don’t wait around for your friends. Get active, get out there.

One way to lead is to organize events and activities. I used to have a loft in Brooklyn, and would throw monthly parties as a way to expand my social circle. After every party, I would have new numbers of women that I eventually dated or invited to the next party. Had I not taken the lead, and gone through the effort of making the event happen, I would never have met these women. Also, I made countless new friends in the process. Another fringe benefit to throwing parties is that when you are out meeting new people in other environments, you have an automatic way of keeping in touch with them – “Hey, I am throwing a party next month, give me your email address and I will send you an invite”. All of these new people show up to your party, and now you are on your home turf, meeting new people. Everyone wants to meet you because it is your party!

I understand that you may not have the space to throw a party, but most people are able to throw dinner parties, right? Here is an idea – throw a dinner party, and ask each friend to bring someone completely new who will not know the other people there. I used to do this a lot, and it always makes for an exciting evening. Also, develop a theme around the dinner. I remember one dinner party I threw was based on a Mediterranean theme, and another was an evening with different “stews” from around the world. Use your imagination and have fun with it. Again, this is a great way to meet new people. Feel free to confide in your female friends that they are more than welcome to bring their single friends along…

If you are totally out of ideas, throw a party in another person’s space. Ask your friends, who happen to have the killer house in the center of town, if they would mind if you threw a dinner party at their house. You will manage the invites, the décor, and the clean-up, while everyone invited will bring a dish to the night. All they have to do is get dressed and have a good time. If the party is going to be big, get some friends to help you out. The basic rule of thumb is to have one person helping you for every ten guests. So, if you can only find three other friends to help you with the party, be sure to have no more than thirty people attend…this is supposed to be fun, right?

Lastly, if there is an interesting core of people at your place of employment, yet no one has yet taken the lead to organizing an after work drink/meal/outing etc, become that person. Work is a great place to start meeting new people, as you are forced to be around each other, and almost certainly know people with which to socialize. Countless groups go out for drinks after work, to try out a new bar or lounge, or a new restaurant. This is a very solid way to start leading and expanding your social circle.

If you use your imagination, and take the lead, there is no way you can be stopped from expanding your social circle. In fact, one of the nice fringe benefits to leading your social life, is that other people will naturally call you with invitations to their cool events. Most people are interested in expanding and enhancing their own social circle. If you help them in doing that by inviting them to your outings, they will often reciprocate the invitation. Taking the lead and getting active is a no-lose situation!

Guys – get started TODAY with this…if you are looking for a girlfriend, or even just a date, taking charge of your social life is THE way to do it. Use some of these ideas here and put them into action.

AND, be on the lookout for the upcoming release of How To Get A Girlfriend, version III. If you are looking to approach women, get dates, and eventually have the power of CHOICE when it comes to relationships…then this is THE book for you.

Stephen Nash.

A really great date idea is something that is often very challenging for men. It’s hard to really know why it is that so many of us struggle with coming up with original and interesting ideas for activities and locations for where to take women for a night out. How many guys out there have consistently fallen back on the “Dinner & a Movie” idea? Probably most, if not ALL of you.

So, what I wanted to do with this post was to give you one of my favorite date ideas, break down why it is so very good, and then toss the ball to the guys reading the blog out there for your ideas - as I am sure some of you have developed good ones yourself.

First of all, you gotta understand that what you choose to do with a woman on a date reveals a lot about your personality. So, if you fall back on “ordinary” activities, you will be seen as - well - ordinary. Do you want that??

In my ebook, How To Get A Girlfriend, I discuss how important it is for you to get involved in your community. This is key for many reasons, but two that I want to highlight now are:

1) By being really “in” your community, you have more FUN, and;
2) You consequently know of more interesting and FUN date ideas…

Pretty simple. But, if you never branch out and try new things you will never have a better idea for when it comes time to plan the date. You will then default to what everyone else does…dinner and a movie.

Notice I highlight FUN above (actually, I all CAPS it, to get your attention…master keystroke? We’ll see…) - when considering the where/what/how/when for your night out with “her”, this should be the guiding principle for your decisions - is it FUN.

Before we completely bemoan the classic “Dinner and a Movie”, let’s at least see why it is effective, if not completely ordinary:

1) It has TWO different activites;
2) It has TWO different venues.

As principles, these are very good and useful. If you are dead-set on this, at least take her to a cool restaurant, and an interesting flick (for New Yorkers, we are about to have the Tribeca Film Festival - so, that would be far more interesting than taking her to the $2 cinema to watch “Old School” for the fiftieth time).

In case you are counting, we now have three guiding principles in formulating a date:

1) It must be FUN;
2) It must involve more than one activity;
3) It must happen in more than one venue.

OK, so after all of that - here is a favorite, inexpensive, FUN, date idea:

A few years ago, I met a younger girl in Los Angeles. I was out at dinner with some friends, and noticed that she and her friend were glancing our way from a few tables down. So, I drew up a hangman game on a napkin and sent it over. I think the final answer was “I Like Puppy Dogs” or something like that - funny and cute (yes, this is a fun way to meet women in restaurants…). Once she got the right answer, she sent it back with her cellphone number on it.

I called her the next day (yes, always call the next day - the two/three day rule is no longer ‘cool’), and we arranged for our date. I knew that I needed to chat with her for a bit, so that we could at least get to know each other some - because at this point, all we knew was that we were both fun and attracted to each other…but there were no commonalities, and no comfort - which is really important if you want to convince someone to carve out an evening from their schedule for you).

After about 10 minutes, I suggested we get together and she agreed. We met at an arcade off of Hollywood Blvd. Now, it might seem childish to meet at an arcade for a first date - but we both had fun attitudes about it, and I think she got a kick out of seeing me try to play video games (I am BAD at video games BTW, but skill level doesn’t matter - it’s about having FUN).

When we entered the arcade, I decided to raise the stakes a bit. I purchased about $5 worth of tokens, and told her that we would play as many games as we could, but that the overall loser would have to buy dessert (incidentally, I try to avoid dinner on a first date - because if there is no chemistry, I don’t want to be stuck at a restaurant with someone for two hours, nor do I want to pay for the time - a first date is a time to get to know each other, and a second date is a time to go deeper, over dinner). So, we played a bunch of different games, and I was the eventual loser. The important thing here is that we had FUN, and there were no awkward moments as there usually are on a first date - we had instant conversation fodder, the activity we were sharing.

Then, I took her to a favorite dessert spot in West Hollywood where we had coffee and cake. After sharing a fun hour or so with each other, moving into a more real conversation was easy because the ice had been broken long ago.

What makes this so effective is that it is comfortable for her and for me. Women are also reluctant often to go for a dinner date (unless they are more familiar with the guy) because they too don’t want the discomfort of being stuck at a dinner table with someone they don’t really know. By having the first section of our date together be with an activity helps us both to relax, and open up. Then, we sit down and share some conversation - which is much easier now.

Oh, and in case you were wondering, if you ask the girl out, you PAY for everything, got it? As you get to know each other more, the pay-burden can be shared, but on a first date, the guy always pays…

So, to sum-up:

1) FUN - try to plan an activity at the beginning of the date which will automatically break the ice, and help you both relax. Galleries are great places to go, for example.

2) More than one activity - two things “to-do” at least. Dinner and a movie are two different activities. I like to be more creative and inventive. Step out of the box and show her that you see the world differently than the average chum…being adventurous is attractive.

3) More than one venue - By going to different places, not only do you both relax, but you also get to see more than just one side of someone. Environments help people socialize around different topics. Change environments at least once on a date. Also, by having to MOVE from one to the other helps people to relax too as their bodies are now engaged. May seem like a small detail, but in my experience, this can be very helpful to both of you.

Now, I would love to hear from YOU. Please feel free to write in your favorite date ideas below, and tell us why they have worked for you. I think it would be great to have an archive here where guys can come for ideas.

My best to you all…

Stephen Nash.

Ever find yourself frustrated after finding a cute girl’s online profile, then sending her an email or two, only to NEVER hear from her?

Or, maybe you do hear from her, only then to arrange a date - and then she flakes?

The worst…BY FAR…is when you arrange the date, and she shows up, only to be NOTHING like what you expected?

Listen, I am a big advocate for internet dating. Particularly if you are just getting started with improving your dating life, or if you are seriously seeking women interested in a relationship. However, like with anything, there are lots of pitfalls that frustrate guys right out of ever trying to be successful with women online.

There IS though a REAL answer out there…

If you want to truly master this art, and AVOID the above scenarios from ever happening again - you will DEFINITELY want to own David DeAngelo’s “Meeting Women Online” program.

Most guys make numerous, SIMPLE, errors in their online dating profiles and emails to women which dramatically, INSTANTLY, lower your success. Women pay lots of attention to numerous details on your profile, and if you don’t have those handled, you will find yourself sending WAY more emails than you should, while getting very little in return. These serve to lower their interest in you, causing them to never reply to your emails OR to flake out at the last minute! What makes this doubly frustrating is that this happens without her ever even MEETING you!

So much of being successful in online dating is about making minor adjustments to your profile, pictures, wording, and emails, to heighten your chances of success. But, do you know what changes you need to make, and HOW to make them?

Most of this revolves around knowing how to create and build sexual tension, with words - first in your profile, then in your emails…and how to build at the RIGHT time! So important to know WHEN to do WHAT in the online dating scene…

In order to really be successful in the online dating world, you owe it to yourself to invest in this product, and dramatically raise your chances of success. Stop playing a guessing game, and get the low-down from a group of experts.

Since I don’t make online dating a huge portion of my programs and products, I thought it best to refer you to someone who had taken the time to put their expertise into a comprehensive program.

If you haven’t yet tried online dating - what are you waiting for? It is a very simple way to meet a lot of women in a short period of time. Also, experience tells me (and plenty of others), that there is a high quality of women in the online scene, and most of them are serious about meeting men. I can’t urge you enough to dive in here, it’s tons of fun and you have a great chance of meeting some really cool women too. Plus, if you are looking for a meaningful interaction, it’s a MUCH better way of meeting women than bars and clubs.

Even if you consider yourself a pro at this, or if you are just getting started - David D’s Meeting Women Online program is a MUST have.

Read more about it from David D!

Stephen

Guys,

Got a GREAT “How To Get A Girlfriend” mailbag question the other day, and wanted to post it here with my reply. This guy’s note to me was great because it was an ACTUAL report. A lot of notes that I get are very vague, and it’s hard for me to respond. Not this guy though – he really outlines what happened, and what actions he took…which leads to more feedback.

Let’s hear from him:

Stephen,

I did my first Engage. Here’s how it went.

I workout in a large park outside my apartment building. I do interval training, and I get VERY dirty and smelly and sweaty. This park has water canals and all sorts of cool stuff to train on.

COOL – being out and engaged in the world…the BEST time to meet women. Sargers take note!

After my workout, I was walking towards the water fountains, and I suddenly saw this big brown dog come out of one of the canals carrying a yellow tennis ball. It startled me a little bit, but I just keep walking. The dog went over to this beautiful woman, sitting on one of the granite ledges near the canal. She was close by, and I was so startled I didn’t think twice. I just changed course a little to walk up the stairs near her.

No hesitation, no second thoughts…the BEST way to approach. And a friendly dog never hurts either.

As I got to perhaps ten feet, her dog jumped up and ran over to me. I was already dirty and sweaty, so I didn’t mind petting the dog. (Actually, the dog was super friendly and sweet. I like dogs.)

The hot babe said “Abbey, come over hear! I’m sorry, she’s all wet. Abbey come here.”

I replied, “Hey, were over here getting a workout, were BOTH dirty and wet—- you just keep supervising. Hey, do you have a personal training certification?”

Great comment – it’s in the moment, and it’s humorous while also flirtatious. Flirty and Funny (should I copyright that??) is the BEST combo when engaging using situational/environmental comments.

She laughed, and right then the dog decided to shake all the water off her back. LOL

I said, “Whoa! looks she’s in better shape than me.”

Self-effacing humor implies confidence and openness, which signals to women that you would be someone easy to speak with. She knows now that you are not loaded with insecurity and arrogance, feeling more comfortable as a result.

She laughed again.

Then we chatted about her dog for a while. Then about how we liked the canal. Then I kept it going until it was a little uncomfortable.

OK – now this is where it gets interesting (to me). HOW did you know it was uncomfortable? It was for you, perhaps, but are you sure it was for her? Why was it uncomfortable? Getting outside of our comfort zone is GOOD. So, perhaps what we are seeing here is you simply outside of the realm of what you have usually done, and are now in an unfamiliar position. Good, this way you get to learn something.

I’d like to encourage you to really be clear with yourself why this was uncomfortable – if you can post a comment here, GREAT, so we can all benefit. But, ultimately, something told you that this was now no longer comfortable. Was it something she did? Were there awkward pauses? What’s the deal?

I started back home again, and as I left I said “See you next time, but I’ll need to see your personal training certificate.”

She laughed again.

Why couldn’t you say instead: ”Well, gotta run home and clean up for my night. Been great chatting, how can we continue this some other time?”

You’d be surprised how simple it can be to get a number or email address, if you just ASK. So often, guys mistakenly think that women will broadcast a loud and clear message that they are interested in you…this is wrong. In fact, if she stayed there for a few moments, laughed at your jokes, and didn’t disconnect the conversation, then she is probably open to exchanging digits…seriously. Next time, definitely go for it!

Stephen, she talked to me and enjoyed it, even though I was literally covered in grime and sweat.

Yep – there is never a WRONG time now is there…

My second Engage was with a Russian woman I recognized from my local Barnes and Noble. I swear she was disappointed when I told her I had to go.

It turns out that women might like me, after all.

Cheers,
Adam

Adam – THANKS for this. Yes, the only way to discover that women like you (and most of us, frankly) is to actually socialize with them. This requires a bit of gile sometimes, but the price is well paid when you have eye-opening experiences like the one described here.

Just remember to continue to lean into your comfort zone, always always challenging it. Your comfort zone might not be connected with the truth. It might be connected with the past, or insecurity…or both…but the only way to grow is to get out there, and get out of your comfort zone. THEN, take stock of the experience, and see more clearly afterwards what REALLY happened. And, as always, feel free to email me your notes, experiences etc for my feedback – happy to help out.

Hope this is clear. And please post a follow-up to this here if you can.

Happy Easter everyone.

SN.

Autonomy: (Greek: Auto-Nomos - nomos meaning “law”: one who gives oneself his own law) means freedom from external authority.

Alphamale: In social animals, the alpha male or alpha female is the individual in the community whom the others follow and defer to. Where one male and one female fulfill this role, they are referred to as the alpha pair.

Autonomy is central to my teachings here at Cutting Edge Image Consulting. We develop your skills and lifestyle so that you have the freedom from external authorities.

For example:

A woman calls you up and flakes on you. How do you respond?

An autonomous response would be to merely conclude that this woman is immature. You move on.

So much of a man’s failure with women stems from a lack of good decisions and an inability of “one who gives oneself his own law”. When you live your own law, you are masculine, you are in control.

Much of my “On Being Naturally Attractive To Women” seminar on April 28-29th is dedicated to helping you develop autonomy and get you on the path to being an “alpha-male”. It’s possible and worthwhile. Learning gimmicks and routines will get you to a certain level, my techniques will bring you the success you really want, spending time with beautiful women around you, and cool friends that know you for you and appreciate that fact.

On that note, I want you to make a decision to get this part of your life handled. It doesn’t necessarily mean coming to my seminar, or buying any of my products. I want you to start making decisions for the betterment of your own life, start pursuing interests that you would like, rather than what you think is “cool”. If you want to help yourself get on track quickly and skip the majority of the learning curve that often comes when stepping into this new world of autonomy, just go ahead and read what my seminar can do for you and decide yourself if its something worthwhile.

Till next time,
Stephen

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