Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with NOTHING to say?

Are you the kind of guy who ‘defaults’ into asking questions when the discussion dries up?

If so, I have the perfect solution for you…

Tell A STORY!

Storytelling is an age-old artform, but for our purposes I want to keep things simple…this is just an article, right?

With women, it is important that you tell a story in a way that captures and leads HER imagination, so that it brings her into your world…which is a nice place to be, right?

In “How To Get A Girlfriend” and “Natural Attraction” I cover this down to the minutest detail – even leading you through an exercise which helps you understand and MASTER this.

Men who are naturally successful with women almost always have a sincere interest in life, and in living it to the fullest.

I talk at length about passion, and its relevance to being attractive in the final chapter of “How To Get A Girlfriend”, but I will touch on it here as it relates to storytelling.

These “naturals” have a lot of activities going on, where they are able to test themselves, and grow as men.

Their life is interesting. It brings a lot of fascination and intrigue all because they have an open mind, and choose to explore it.

One way that this serves to help them in their lives with women is that they have interesting stories to tell. Women (and all people) are captivated by a good story. The best storytellers always fill their words and tales with drama, humor, passion, intrigue and mystery.

Next time you are at the beach, notice what kinds of books women are reading while they sunbathe. This summer, I seemed to see a lot of romance novels, as well as mystery and suspense novels.

Women are most often led by their emotional center, and when they find something (or someone) who understands how to communicate with them in an emotional way, they get interested.

What might be some topics to focus on when considering what stories to tell while in the presence of women? Here’s a list:

- Pop Culture
- Spirituality
- Emotionally charged memories & experiences
- Travel
- Adventure
- Humorous stories from your life

These topics are great because they are entertaining, exciting, funny and generate positive emotions. Also, the more interested you already are in a certain topic the better. This helps you to be enthusiastic when telling your story, a VERY necessary prerequisite for capturing someone’s attention.

If you have a natural interest in one of the above topics, it makes sense for you to want to share stories from your life that reflect this interest. Get that?

So, what are some ways that we can develop this skill called storytelling?

1) Pay attention (see the world around you, and develop an eye/ear for a good story)
2) Learn to communicate via emotions (as opposed to logic)
3) Live passionately

Let’s spend a BRIEF minute now with each of these topics.

Pay attention: People tend to sleep walk through their lives. Great poets seem to always highlight this when they discuss the smallest things, which most of us don’t see and appreciate. As you go through your life, pay attention to what you see.

Also, remember to paint the picture for someone. Get them involved by creating clear images of what is happening. Great storytellers are comfortable using their body, facial expressions and voice to illuminate the story.

This allows them to enter into that world, and have a similar experience of the story as you had when witnessing it. This strengthens the connection between the two of you, painting an attractive portrait of your world. Makes sense right?

Each day of your life is full of scenes, scenarios, and happenings that make for good stories.

Also, many men forget that women like it when we make fun of ourselves. It communicates that you are secure with yourself. If you can tell a funny story which pokes fun at yourself, illustrates that you are human and are comfortable with that, you will get great reactions from women – TRUST ME.

I want to emphasize the importance of paying attention to what is happening around you. This can help you in all areas of your life, not just in relating to women.

No one’s life is so boring, so lacking in humor, beauty and drama, as to prevent them from having any interesting stories to relate to others.

Here is an appropriate mindset: you find your life interesting, and the world fascinates you; you, naturally, wish to convey this to others as you are a very social guy; you want others to come into your world so you invite them in with a story.

Learn emotional communication: If women could hit us all over the heads, and in a flash change one thing about men, it would be that we are not in touch with our emotions.

In order to communicate emotionally, we first must be in contact with our own emotional lives. This means being open to how we are feeling, each and every moment. (Check out David Deida’s “Blue Truth” for more on this)

Emotional communication is where you speak in a way that creates emotions in the listener. The way to do this as a storyteller is to invite the senses and emotions into the story.

This means to recreate the images that you observed, and sounds and smells you experienced, and anything you physically felt as a result of the experience. You must do this with your words, conveying these words with feeling and emotion.

Men tend to be stoic, stiff, logical people, governed more by their intellect while women tend to be more emotional, centered in their feelings. The “natural” is not stiff; he is relaxed and unafraid to convey emotions.

He relates a story from his life with real feeling and he sympathizes with women intuitively. At the same time he offers them strength and challenges them to face things in a more balanced way.

He is unafraid to give himself to something with a great deal of passion. The next time you go to a bar, or club, or somewhere where people are socializing, notice the men who have women with them. Are they the stiff, nervous-looking guys who are mostly silent and appear as a deer in headlights when face-to-face with a beautiful woman?

Nope.

Are they the relaxed, confident guys who are just having fun, joking around with people, sharing the moment and their life lightheartedly, without the appearance of being under a lot of pressure?

Yes.

Once you open up and begin to trust and listen to yourself, you will begin to notice many cues that were always there before, but that you were unaware of…why? You weren’t paying attention, that’s why.

This is an invaluable skill when storytelling because it adds a dimension to it that women strongly relate to – an emotional dimension.

Remember, our ebook “How to Get A Girlfriend” and audio program “Natural Attraction” both cover this extensively. I strongly suggest starting with the ebook and giving it a solid three reads WHILE you practice this in real life.

The only way to really change your life is to invite in new, outside information (in this case, my ebook) and then PRACTICE developing the skill.

Good luck!

Stephen Nash

My ebook How To Get A Girlfriend is all about meeting the woman of your dreams. Well, one of the larger EARLY hurdles we guys have to surmount is the always important FIRST DATE.

Your phone conversation might go a little something like this…

YOU: “Let’s meet for coffee”

HER: “Sure, sounds great”

YOU”: “See you at 8pm.”

HER: “Great, see you then.”

You hang up feeling elated at having confirmed a date with this gorgeous, fascinating woman. You will take her out for coffee, hoping the conversation will be terrific. You hope this leads to a solid connection and the ever-challenging, second date.

Why are you already behind the 8-ball? Why are you already backed into the corner?

Why are you following the rules, “hoping” for good luck rather than being bold & spontaneous, increasing the chances of having an awesome time?

Taking a girl for coffee is a nice thing to do. Any decent, intelligent girl would think nice thoughts about you. But, how far has “nice” gotten you in the past?

Ask yourself this question:

“Why do I play by the rules? Why don’t I use my imagination, and God-given creative instincts, to create an interesting evening?”

If you answered correctly, you said:

“Because I haven’t a clue how to do that!”

Precisely…

This article is intended to give you, on a silver platter no less, this very clue. Here is the “Lucky 7” list:

1) Break the rules. Why just take her to coffee, when, if you use your imagination, virtually anything becomes a possibility. Think of the date as being a way to present yourself to her. Want her to think you are ordinary, uncreative and possibly boring? Or, would you rather her see you as someone exciting and original? You decide.

2) Dress Casual-Cool. Don’t make the first date super-formal. A client of ours recently took a woman to a costume ball on a first date. They were both stiff as boards the entire evening. Instead, make the event relaxed and fun, and dress slightly above the atmosphere. So, if you take her to the downtown music scene, for example, wear a smooth blazer with a t-shirt, and some casual slacks. You set yourself apart from the crowd, and look a bit cooler than the rest of the t-shirts and jeans in your midst.

3) Don’t Wait for the Kiss. Most guys wait for the end of the evening to kiss her. In fact, most women expect this awkward moment. Instead, maybe an hour or so into the date, create an opportunity to kiss her. Structure a romantic moment like a stroll along the river, or a relaxing tea on a park bench. Then, slow everything down, gently tease her hair while you chat, and go for the kiss. She will be impressed with your spontaneity, and will feel grateful not to dread any uncomfortable moments at the end of the night. In fact, a kiss then will be automatic.

4) Bring Her into Your World. Most guys see a first date as time to “impress her” or “make her like me”. Blah! Instead, why not approach it as time to “show her who I am and what I am about” as well as an opportunity to “see if we connect”. Why should you have to impress her? In fact, your attempts at impressing her will likely make her uncomfortable. Social intelligence indicates that a first date is an “information gathering” session – no more, no less.

5) Breath Control. Usually guys have great breath as the date begins. But, as the date goes on, their mouths dry-up, which can lead to sour breath. On a first date, a kiss is unlikely at the very beginning, right? So, be sure your breath is solid throughout the night by both drinking plenty of water, and by bringing mints or another breath control device. Breath strips are great for example. At a point in the evening, excuse yourself and head to the men’s room. Check your grooming, but also be sure to drop a mint or two, so you are ready and able when the moment arrives…

6) Go Easy Hotshot. Don’t make the rookie mistake of acting like a horny teenager in the throes of puberty; stay cool. No groping allowed, period. Ease into physical contact and anything sexual by setting the stage for it. Once she responds positively to your subtle advances and gives you a window of opportunity, make your move. Nothing too fast, too soon. She must trust you and be comfortable with you first before anything can happen. It’s your job to get this done.

And last…

7) Be Prepared. Have cash for cabs and a back-up plan in case the place you go to doesn’t work out for any reason (closed, booked, boring). The back-up could be what your friends are doing that night. Find out from them before you head out. Also, have your place clean and bed made if you decide to invite her over to “watch a movie.” Oh, and have a movie, and some protection (read: CONDOM) nearby…just in case.

That’s it guys. Use these tried and true tips, and watch your first date lead to a second one in a flash. Remember, this is not your chance to impress her, but rather your opportunity to express yourself honestly and powerfully. If you have no clue how to do that, you are going to want to click here and check out my ebook pronto. Seriously, it is THE essential primer for giving guys the maximum edge in dating, and in life.

Take care,

Stephen Nash

Cutting Edge Image Consulting

Guys…

We’ve been posting articles here recently, but haven’t had a direct correspondence in a few weeks. What do you think of the new site? We’ve redesigned it to be more CLEAR in our message and intent. Would love your feedback.

Also, we’ve done some work recently on YouTube and will be posting some clips from that soon. This is in anticipation of our upcoming release of the much anticipated DVD series “How To Get A Girlfriend - The Advanced Series” coming this fall.

I’ve done a lot of writing recently, but more on KEEPING a girlfriend. Look for some new articles from me on that beginning tomorrow.

Again, if you have feedback PLEASE post it here or email it to me…would LOVE to hear from everyone.

Oh, and see “The Simpsons” film…and watch for Spider Pig…

Happy Summer Day,

SN.

So, how do you know when to take things to the next level?
How to know when to “make the move”? This is a problem every guy sweats. In fact, I know a handful of guys who lose sleep over this prior to going out with a girl. Wouldn’t you like a clear and easy plan to navigate these special moments? Read on.
I want to cover a few things while going through this topic of “How To Escalate”. All of them require you to pay attention, and lead the interaction.
Typically, when in an intimate situation, women look to men to lead this process. The first thing you should be paying attention to is body language.
Body language
You will need to gauge her comfort level by observing her body language, and by listening to what she says. The basic rule of thumb is to not give her any more energy (via body language) than she is giving with hers and in the meantime create comfort by talking, listening, and expressing humor, encouraging her to open up to you.
When she does so, reward her with changing your body language too, slowly leading her physically into more and more comfort.
For example, say you are both sitting on the sofa and you notice that her legs are crossed AWAY from you. What we teach is to also cross yours away from her, and then, after a few moments of comfort building, cross your legs TO her.
If you have earned her trust, she will, as a result of greater rapport, cross her legs to you. See that? This principle applies to all potential scenarios.
The idea is to meet her where she is, then lead her from that into a more intimate place.
Tonality
You will want to slow down your speech, and soften your voice when escalating. This may be obvious to some of you guys, but women are very responsive to changes in sound.
Again, if you do this at the right time, you will, just by using your voice, LEAD her into greater intimacy - her voice will slow down, and soften…you lean in to hear her, get closer…see where this leads?
Pacing her reality
If you sense her getting uncomfortable for any reason pace her reality and acknowledge that you are sensitive to the moment. When you pace someone’s reality, you exhibit understanding for their situation, you build a connection there, stabilizing the energy.
Then, you simply build back to where you were, and continue to escalate. Pacing can be used at any point, particularly where you feel that she is uncomfortable, or you are uncomfortable.
There are two very good ways to do so:
1) Pace it by simply acknowledging it.
“Wow, here we are in my bedroom, I must say it is a bit uncomfortable to be here with a completely new person and it must also be kind of different for you too. Well, since you are a new person in my room, as your initiation, you must tell a very funny joke.”
So, what have I done here? I have communicated that I am uncomfortable (which will invariably surprise her), I acknowledge that I understand her feelings too (notice that I don’t say that she feels uncomfortable, or weird - I say “different”, better to frame her feelings in this way, rather than something so obviously negative), and then I take her feelings and transfer her discomfort from being in my room to a challenge to tell a funny joke. Now she has a different reason to feel uncomfortable, and it is not about me, but rather about a challenge that I have laid down. Yes, you can certainly use the line, but better to understand the principle.
So, here is a short definition: pacing = acknowledgement, connection, and lead away. Cool?
So, how then do you know when to move forward, when to escalate? Well, you have to begin to notice rhythms that exist socially between people. There are certain windows of opportunity which open up when in intimacy.
Escalation is on your mind, and it is on hers. She is wondering if you will, and then, how you will-escalate.
What will be on your mind, usually, is that you want to, but how, and when? You HAVE to pay attention, and you HAVE to be willing to take the chance.
There is a structure I teach in Natural Attraction which is foolproof, and works everytime. This structure is universal, and is always applicable when it comes to deciding when to kiss, touch, and advance further into physical intimacy. I don’t give it away here though…
In my experience, guys typically advance their success with women drastically after learning some very simple, easy to understand, facts about dating and female psychology.
All of these are covered in our complete audio program, Natural Attraction which is guaranteed to dramatically alter how you perceive women and dating from the moment you begin the first CD.
In fact, you can be working your way through it in a matter of days by clicking here and reading more about it.
Otherwise, hope you’re enjoying the holidays…and more to come from me soon.
SN.

Want to know the REAL reason women are turned-off by men? The answer might surprise you.

You’re probably thinking it has to do with your haircut, the pleats in your pants, or your bank account. In fact, it usually has NOTHING to do with these things.

I remember being blown off by a girl in college. I had asked her out, and she gave me the classic, “Let me call you back, OK?” Well, I am sure you know the rest of this sad tale. She never called. However, I did run into her a few weeks later and asked her out again. I figured she had “forgotten” to call!

What she told me completely changed my life:

“You’re too needy, I don’t like that. I want a man I can trust, not someone who needs me”

Wow….my head spun for days. I couldn’t believe she had said that. And, what’s more, I couldn’t believe she could TELL after having only met me for 10 minutes!

Well, that began my journey to being successful with dating and women. The sting of those remarks has never left me!

What I learned over the years may surprise you. There are CLASSIC and CONSISTENT ways guys project neediness when meeting new women. Here they are:

1) Ask Too Many Questions: There is nothing wrong with being curious and inquisitive. However, if that is all you do when you meet a new woman, you are subtly telling her that you are seeking rapport with her while knowing NOTHING about her. There needs to be a balance of questions, statements, observations, stories etc. The amount of talking needs to be shared equally between the two of you - 50/50. If you find yourself rifling off boring questions like “Where are you from?”, “What’s Your Sign?”, “What’s Your Bra Size?”…you are in serious trouble.

2) Needy Body Language: A great tool you can own is the ability to read body language. Imagine a conversation where one person is leaning into another. Perhaps they are making a point, or perhaps they are trying to listen to what the other has to say. Which has the power? You guessed it – it’s the one standing upright, not the one leaning. How is your body language right now as you read this? Are you hunched over at your desk, or are you sitting tall in your chair? Empower yourself by changing your body language. Never lean in to a woman, and always sit or stand tall. There are no exceptions to this rule. Let her lean into you.

3) Weak Vocal Tone: If you are afraid of being heard, you communicate timidity, neediness and insecurity. If you project your voice, with a confident tone you ALSO say you expect to be heard and are confident in what you have to say. I cannot stress the importance of a powerful vocal tone – it is ESSENTIAL.

If you are able to master these, you will prevent the SYMPTOMS of neediness from appearing. However, the best and surest way to remedy these is to tackle the problem head-on. How do you do that?

Study this one word:

AUTONOMY

Now, if you want to clearly “get” why this idea is critical for you to understand, and why it is ESSENTIAL that you internalize it, then check out my ebook “How To Get A Girlfriend”. In it, I cover WHY becoming autonomous is the only real way to discover lasting success with women. I also help you develop an action plan to put you on the FAST TRACK for success.

So, enough of being needy and clingy with women. You are destroying your chances before you even start!

Here’s the link to get you started fixing this problem:

http://www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com

As always, please let me know if you have any questions. I am always happy to hear from guys in the real world, encountering real world challenges. Send your questions to me via the About page on my website.

As always, good luck!

Stephen Nash
www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com

Don’t worry, it happens to each and every one of us. We meet a woman, she is gorgeous, intelligent, and seems into us. And then, just as we are about to move to kiss her, she throws up her hands and delivers the CLASSIC line:

Let’s Just Be Friends

Ugh…our hearts drop, we feel embarrassed, and our masculinity plummets. What happened? What went wrong?

There is no fail-safe method to preventing this, but there are some tried and true tips to help stave-off this dreaded phrase. Here we go:

1) Be physical. No, I don’t mean wrestle with her, but I do mean for you to TOUCH her. Perhaps you just met her, and have been talking for 5-10 minutes – touch her lightly on the hand or the shoulder. Or, you are out on your first date, offer your arm to her as you cross the street or subtly place your hand on her lower back. These are masculine moves, which signal to her that this is a romantic interaction, not a “friendly” one.

2) Be bold. Ultimately guys, she is looking to you to be both sensitive to her and to the moment. If the window opens for a kiss, be bold, and go for it. If you allow too many of these to pass, the energy changes, and you classify YOURSELF as a “friend”. Even if she rejects your advance, it is far better to go for it that not. You get nowhere fast by hoping a kiss magically happens. If she does reject you, this doesn’t mean you cannot try again later. Also, she may be saving you a lot of time by indicating that she simply is not interested in you. Better to find out now…

3) Challenge her. Too often we are so eager to please the woman that we fail to be ourselves. If we are really focused and moving our lives forward, our attractiveness to women increases tremendously. In my ebook, “How To Get A Girlfriend”, I discuss this in length. A woman, intuitively, biologically, is seeking a man who will be firm and steadfast in his resolve, and his purpose. The way we demonstrate this is in not accepting her at her fullest. So, if you feel that she is not really living up to her potential, TELL HER. If she is allowing herself to slip into mediocrity, TELL HER. Do it tenderly, and with love, but be sure to do it. Don’t accept less than her best.

There you go guys. If you can do these three things with consistency, you will never find yourself hearing those awful words again…”Let’s Just Be Friends”. There will be times when you do not get the girl, but you will always be firm in your purpose maintaining your integrity. And, you will be better prepared for the NEXT girl, just around the corner.

If you want to know more about EXACTLY how to incorporate this belief set, and skyrocket your dating success, check out my ebook “How To Get A Girlfriend”. You can download it to your computer, and be reading it in less than 5 minutes. Want to get this area handled ASAP? Go for it now.

Also, if you have questions that you feel are suitable for our mailbag series, feel free to email them to me at: Stephen@ceimageconsulting.com.

My best to you,

Stephen Nash

Want to know the REAL reason women are turned-off by men? The answer might surprise you.

You’re probably thinking it has to do with your haircut, the pleats in your pants, or your bank account. In fact, it usually has NOTHING to do with these things.

I remember being blown off by a girl in college. I had asked her out, and she gave me the classic, “Let me call you back, OK?” Well, I am sure you know the rest of this sad tale. She never called. However, I did run into her a few weeks later and asked her out again. I figured she had “forgotten” to call!

What she told me completely changed my life:

“You’re too needy, I don’t like that. I want a man I can trust, not someone who needs me”

Wow….my head spun for days. I couldn’t believe she had said that. And, what’s more, I couldn’t believe she could TELL after having only met me for 10 minutes!

Well, that began my journey to being successful with dating and women. The sting of those remarks has never left me!

What I learned over the years may surprise you. There are CLASSIC and CONSISTENT ways guys project neediness when meeting new women. Here they are:

1) Ask Too Many Questions: There is nothing wrong with being curious and inquisitive. However, if that is all you do when you meet a new woman, you are subtly telling her that you are seeking rapport with her while knowing NOTHING about her. There needs to be a balance of questions, statements, observations, stories etc. The amount of talking needs to be shared equally between the two of you - 50/50. If you find yourself rifling off boring questions like “Where are you from?”, “What’s Your Sign?”, “What’s Your Bra Size?”…you are in serious trouble.

2) Needy Body Language: A great tool you can own is the ability to read body language. Imagine a conversation where one person is leaning into another. Perhaps they are making a point, or perhaps they are trying to listen to what the other has to say. Which has the power? You guessed it – it’s the one standing upright, not the one leaning. How is your body language right now as you read this? Are you hunched over at your desk, or are you sitting tall in your chair? Empower yourself by changing your body language. Never lean in to a woman, and always sit or stand tall. There are no exceptions to this rule. Let her lean into you.

3) Weak Vocal Tone: If you are afraid of being heard, you communicate timidity, neediness and insecurity. If you project your voice, with a confident tone you ALSO say you expect to be heard and are confident in what you have to say. I cannot stress the importance of a powerful vocal tone – it is ESSENTIAL.

If you are able to master these, you will prevent the SYMPTOMS of neediness from appearing. However, the best and surest way to remedy these is to tackle the problem head-on. How do you do that?

Study this one word:

AUTONOMY

Now, if you want to clearly “get” why this idea is critical for you to understand, and why it is ESSENTIAL that you internalize it, then check out my ebook “How To Get A Girlfriend”. In it, I cover WHY becoming autonomous is the only real way to discover lasting success with women. I also help you develop an action plan to put you on the FAST TRACK for success.

So, enough of being needy and clingy with women. You are destroying your chances before you even start!

Here’s the link to get you started fixing this problem:

http://www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com

As always, please let me know if you have any questions. I am always happy to hear from guys in the real world, encountering real world challenges. Send your questions to me via the About page on my website.

As always, good luck!

Stephen Nash
www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com

You are out with some friends, maybe at a great new lounge. On your way to the bar, you notice a woman with extra-special beauty laughing with her friends. She has that look of beauty that is rare, but is breathtaking. You want to meet her, but how?

It might surprise you to hear that the very attractive women out there are often the easiest to approach. Most women of great beauty are so intimidating to men, that the best a guy can do is pick his jaw up off the floor and keep walking. Truthfully, extraordinary beauty strikes the fear of God in many men.

So, if you want to learn how to approach and attract very beautiful women, the most important thing to remember is….relax. I cover other tactics in detail in my e-book “How To Get A Girlfriend”.

A few years ago, I worked up the nerve to approach a very famous supermodel (who shall remain nameless). I was terrified upon approaching, but forced myself to do it because I knew it would help me build my confidence.

What surprised me was how open she was to having a conversation. She was friendly, humorous and engaging. The interaction ended when her thug-bodyguard ran me off…but I was so surprised how easy she was to talk to. Interesting, right?

What my friends and I realized later was that women of great beauty are rarely approached by men. The women hardest to meet are, in fact, those that are a bit below the supermodel level – call them an “8” or a “9” (rating scales are crude, so forgive me). They are less intimidating, and therefore more approachable by men.

They are the ones who will often throw tests at you as fast as a Roger Clemens fastball. Why? They have had to learn how to deal with men trying to pick them up a lot, and have developed an arsenal to defend themselves from guys only interested in their bodies.

However, the “10”s of the world are already so fearsome to men, that they tend to get off slightly easier. Of course, they have challenges in different ways, but for now I encourage you to go for it and approach them.

When (and if) you do, be sure not to fawn over their beauty or even remark that they are attractive. This will instantly blow it for you, as you become one of the many who are not able to get past their looks. Instead, ask her something like this:

“Excuse me – I need female input on a debate my friends and I are having – maybe you can help. In a relationship, what is more important to women – romance or adventure?”

Presto – ask her this and she won’t think you are talking to her because she is so gorgeous, but because she is nearby and female. Plus, it is an interesting topic – women love talking about relationships. From there, just engage her in playful conversation, and then lead her into a more personal conversation. If you need help with that – our 7-day “Natural Attraction” program covers it ALL in detail. Check it out here.

If you asked an extremely attractive woman what is it that most upsets her about her beauty, it would probably be that people see her as a hot body, rather than as a person.

So, remember – relax - and go for it. And when you do, be sure to talk to the person and not the body! Ask her questions, chit chat with her, tell her funny stories, probe her opinions on subjects. Be interested in what she is saying rather than her amazing figure.

Again, if talking with gorgeous women terrifies you more than you are at a loss of what to say, check out my ebook “How To Get A Girlfriend”: www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com/ebook

In the ebook, I cover talking to beautiful women, how to approach them, and a helluva lot more…you should definitely check it out.

Good luck! And, if you do approach a “10” today, pat yourself on the back my friend. You just joined the smallest group of men on earth…those willing to go for what they really want and deserve out of life!

Stephen Nash
Cutting Edge Image Consulting

Want to know the Truth?

Most guys won’t approach a woman. They are too scared. It is more frightening than hiking up Mt. Everest, or speaking in front of the White House Press Corps.

I cover the psychology of approaching women, and WHY men HAVE to approach in my ebook How To Get A Girlfriend. I assume you have this by now, so I won’t belabor that point (and if you don’t…what the heck are you waiting for? Click here to be reading it in under 60 seconds….seriously).

So, if you want real choice and power with your dating life, you’re going to have to join the minority. That’s right – you are going to have to seize the opportunities when they come your way and push through your fear.

Any guy can do it. This is not rocket science, or dismantling a land mine here. In fact, most women will give you the benefit of the doubt just for having the cajones to approach her – cool?

Assuming you can get past your own fear (subtle challenge), here are some MUSTS for making your approach smooth. The idea is to make the process as comfortable for you and her as possible.

If you strike out, chalk it up as a “learning experience.” Think about how you can make the next one better, got it?

Let’s accelerate your learning curve and go over 3 elements for making your next approach look as natural as a sunrise.

1) Casual: Looks much easier written down than when staring at the next Mrs. YOU. But, if you come on too strong to her at first, she’s going to get frightened and defend herself. To start the conversation, be as casual as possible by asking her a simple question about your environment. Also, keep your body language as neutral as possible by not turning and facing her or leaning in to her. She is much more likely to receive your approach if you can prevent the words “something is up here, I can just feel it!!” from crossing her mind. Feel free to also look away as you chat with her. Again, you are reinforcing the casual-ness of the interaction.

2) Playful: Lots of guys become Mr. Cocky when they approach women, which is a defense mechanism. Drop the cockiness, and show her your confident side by being playful. This is also called – FLIRTING – and is a MUST skill for guys who want to enhance their dating lives. You want to simply joke around, but stay away from teasing her – you don’t know her well enough for that yet. Instead, point out the humor in your surroundings, or, even better, about yourself. The more self-effacing here the better. Let her know you don’t take yourself too seriously. If you can master this, women will trust you. If women trust you, they will want to be around you. See where this leads?

3) Personal: Last, but not least, at some point you have to let her know a little bit about you. Instead of relying on the standard diet of questions (“where are you from?”, “what is your sign?”), answer these questions for her in the form of statements. Just drop them into your conversation: “Your sweater reminds me of my sister, though we are from the south, it gets cold around November. She used to wear something similar at Thanksgiving.” In that statement alone, I reveal three facts about my life: I am from the south, I have a sister, and we gather at Thanksgiving. Suddenly, you are no longer a guy she just met at the café, but someone she is “getting to know”. There is a HUGE difference.

So, now that you have the basic three ideas in mind, you now have to LEARN them. Here is your mission:

Do one approach per day for the next week, and play around with these ideas. Try to take some notes after each approach, and learn where your sticking points are.

Thanks a lot guys, and send me any questions or comments you may have - am always happy to hear from guys improving this area of their lives.

Your Friend,
Stephen Nash

Responding to “No”…

It is bound to happen gentlemen. That one word we all do not want to hear….

If you decide to take charge of your life, and get your dating challenges handled, guess what? You are bound to make mistakes. You are also bound to hear the most dreaded word that could ever emit from the beautiful lips of a woman: “No”.

It would be impossible to outline a to-do list for each and every time she might say “no” to you, OK? But, there is one basic rule for dealing with this objection and it is very important to abide by this rule. I cover this in detail in my e-book How To Get A Girlfriend.

Want to know what it is?

Well, when she says no to you, you better agree with her.

If you are about to kiss her, don’t.

If you are about to touch her, don’t.

If you are about to do anything intimate, and she says no, don’t do it. Period.

Now, you might be thinking – but, is that it? It’s a closed door forever? I am NEVER to go for “it”?

Not exactly. Yes, she is uttering the word “no” to you, but what she is really saying is “not yet” or “I am not comfortable with you yet”. Women are all different and have different time schedules for everything. One woman may want to kiss you from the moment she sees you, while another may not want to feel your lips on hers until the second date.

What you have to do is to trust your intuition, and go with it. That is your best source of information.

If she says “no”, agree with her, and back up a bit – give her some space and show her that you are sensitive to her comfort level. She probably needs more time with you, to learn more about you so she feels more connected and trusting.

So, backup a bit, convey your personality a bit more, convey some stories about your life, lighten the mood with your sense of humor…and the next time you try to kiss her, she is more likely to be open to it.

For example….

A number of months ago, I was out with a woman and we were watching some fireworks by the Hudson River. The moment was intimate and romantic – primetime for a kiss, or so I thought. When I moved to kiss her, she moved her head back and giggled a bit. Instead of getting flustered or angry, I just smiled, stroked her hair and whispered “OK”. I then kept the mood gentle and romantic by changing the subject slightly and told a story about watching fireworks when I was a kid.

When it was time to leave, I took her by the hand and led her back to the car. Instead of waiting until the end of the date for the kiss, I paused underneath an old lamp to admire the view of the river one last time. I pulled her into me, and this time, she was ready. We shared a nice kiss, and then soon left to go home.

She told me later that the way I handled her “rejection” caused her to feel more attracted and comfortable with me. Thus, I was able to kiss her with no resistance on my second try.

To summarize, if she says “no”, don’t get discouraged, down or angry. Just take it as information about how comfortable she is feeling with you. Keep a positive frame of mind, and keep having fun with her. You can use this moment as a way to show her that you are someone she can trust, and that you can handle a challenge without loosing your cool.

Ultimately, if she continues saying “no”, guess what? She is probably not interested, or not attracted to you. Probably best to cut your losses then and move on.

Last but not least – “no” means “no” – it does not mean “if”, “and” or “but” and certainly not “yes”. So, respect her wishes and comply.

Oh, and if you haven’t purchased my ebook How To Get A Girlfriend yet, what are you waiting for? It is the BEST source of practical, easy-to-learn information on dating and relationships currently on the market – period. It comes with a 7-day free trial. Just click this link and be reading it in 5 minutes. Seriously – you can’t lose.

Your friend,

Stephen Nash

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