Hey there.

Wanted to be sure you were aware of this podcast I did recently with Scot McCay (I even bought a brand new microphone for it and everything!).

Scot was recently interviewed by David D for his “Dating Guru” series. He and I have a TON in common.

We met via a mutual friend and decided to do a podcast together…so I wanted to be sure you were aware of it.

Anyway, Scot got me talking about how to spot TOXIC women and eliminate them from your life entirely.

As you know, I was featured in “The Game” by my buddy Neil Strauss - and have seen and done virtually everything when it comes to the art of “pick-up” & dating.

Along the way, I met a ton of women whom you wouldn’t want to take home to mom (not my mom at least).

Part of this art is about WHERE you meet them…so high octane techno clubs is probably not the best place to go meeting quality women (which is where we mostly rolled). Don’t worry, we go into detail about GREAT places to meet beautiful, intelligent women.

But that’s only about 10% of the deal.

Most of this podcast features the tell-tale signs of unhealthy women, and how to spot them EARLY in the interaction, way before you carve out time from your busy life for a date with them.

(And trust me, I’ve done your homework for you on that one…)

Does that interest you?

We also talk in great depth about becoming a man who attracts healthy, available women into long-term, fulfilling relationships.

I have the pleasure of living that reality right now. (In fact, as I type this letter to you, my girlfriend is in the next room posting to her blog!)

One little tidbit I’ll give you here is - when I was a pick-up artist, cruising for sexual fulfillment (aka - getting laid…duh), I seemed to only attract women who were also seeking that same level of fulfillment.

Let me put this into laymen’s terms for you (no pun intended), youget what you give…and I was giving a load of BS, and got it in return.

Most of the time, it wouldn’t even turn into sex.

It would just become a “game” that no one wins…

I learned the hard way that the only way to attract GREAT women is to become a GREAT guy.

So, let me ask you again - does learning about that interest you?

I sure hope so, as that is the sole purpose of this newsletter.

If so, you’ll want to hear this - it’s pretty involved, as both Scot and I love talking about women and dating (you’ll see what I mean!)

A lot of this podcast is me and Scot listing the signs that the woman you are speaking with is not worth the valuable investment of your time.

I’d suggest even grabbing and pen and paper now so you can take notes as there’s a lot of high-quality content (I love lists, btw).

OK - so here’s what you’ll need to do:

All you have to do is click the following link, and you’ll be taken to a page where Scot asks you to fill-out a quick form. Then, the next page features a yellow banner in the upper right hand corner.

Just click that banner, and you’ll be listening to us instantly. (All of those steps take about 30 seconds)

Here’s the link:

http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/ceic

(you’ve gotta listen to it just to hear the intro music…WOW)

Also, Scot has a new program he now features called “Virtuosity”.

I also did an episode for that program too…(as have a ton of my friends).

You’ll get to read all about it on Scot’s site.

It’s an AMAZING idea - interview experts on various topics related to dating and women, and then create a catalog of these highly-focused conversations to provide to members of the “inner circle”.

Kind of an amazing business structure frankly.

Anyway, for Scot’s “Virtuosity” series, we discuss picking-up women…but doing it ethically, and without manipulation.

YES - there is a way to pick-up women with integrity.

He’s even offering a coupon to guys who register from my blog.

You’ll notice it at the top of his “Virtuosity” page (the page you go to after filling-in his little form on page 1).

Again, here’s what you’ll need to do:

Click the following link, and fill-out the quick form (he’s going to ask for your name and email address…standard operating procedure).

Then, you’ll be taken to his “Virtuosity” page where you’ll see the magic yellow banner at the top right-hand corner of the page.

Just click that banner, and you’ll be listening to us instantly (All of those steps take about 30 seconds) AND you’ll get to read all about his “Virtuosity” program…

It’s worth the read if you just check-out his lineup of stars…(and each has a pic on there too…if you’ve ever wondered what I or anyone else looked like - now is your chance!)

Here’s the link again:

http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/ceic

I hope you enjoy it!

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Now, did anyone watch the SNL holiday special last night (Dec 13th)?? It was hysterical. We watched most of it, and I was particularly intrigued by an old sketch with Steve Martin.

Watch this guys - it is an AWESOME display of comic timing and rhythm. Totally brilliant. It’s also very, very funny.

On9now Videos - SNL - Steve Martin’s Holiday Wish

Notice how he builds rhythmically to the high-points, changes his energy suddenly (and often) to emphasize the humor? Also, I love how he gradually starts glossing over the “children of the world” part as early as the second phrase. Steve Martin KILLS me.

The more you can watch and understand comic timing and humor, the more likely you’ll be able to embody it yourself. This is obviously a very high level social skill. But, be sure to pay attention to these things and try to learn from the greats.

If they rerun the SNL holiday special - be sure to watch it. Eddie Murphy, Joe Piscipo (as Frank Sinatra - my favorite!), Will Farrell (of course) and others…oh, and let’s not forget the classic skit with Ana Gasteyer, Molly Shannon and Alec Baldwin on NPR - The “Shweaty Balls” skit…hysterical!

Take care and have a killer weekend,

Stephen

I worked with two clients recently who both asked me to summarize how it is that I help guys with this age-old question: How To Get A Girlfriend.

I realized this was such a clear request that I have handled in my ebook, but I thought it might be useful to briefly cover this in an article - as a sort of primer - so that guys who haven’t yet purchased the book can have a clearer idea of what we’re all about here at Cutting Edge Image Consulting (CEIC).

It is rather an audacious claim – to say that we understand how to help YOU get a girlfriend. But, via tons of research, loads of interviews, massive trial and error, and a solid education at the school of hard knocks, I do believe we’ve found an answer…

Seduction is a huge catch word out there for guys – the image of you seducing women left and right is dangled in front of your nose ten times a day if you surf the web without your brain turned on. Listen, seduction is fine and dandy, if you know how to meet women, and are looking for the RIGHT kinds of women into a relationship.

It’s now how to get a girlfriend though…

I am not a fan of using seduction as a trick to get laid…or as a way of manipulating women into thinking you like them when you don’t…and I learned about that the hard way…Enough said.

For most guys who suffer from a lack of success with women, what they really want is more options, better options, and ultimately, an awesome girlfriend.

Dating is tough because most people give themselves to the laws of chance when seeking a mate. Finding a lasting relationship is hugely important to most people, so why should this be left to chance??

My belief is that a guy who is not meeting enough women, or the right women, is simply not living in the right way.

If you want to meet MORE women, do you put yourself into circumstances where you can interact with them?

If you want to meet the RIGHT women, do you do things which naturally bring you into contact with people who share commonalities with you?

Mastering the above two questions is crucial to your dating success. If you aren’t meeting enough women, and you want to get a girlfriend, you’d better find natural ways to socialize MORE. Join some clubs or take some classes. Get on email lists for events that interest you. Go to a party. Throw a party. Invite people out after work. This is the first step.

You then need to focus on meeting more of the right kinds of women – which only happens as we gain more and more clarity on what it is that we like to do/don’t like to do and start doing it more and more.

If you are really pursuing aims in this world, which means taking lots of action, you will naturally be more and more in community with like-minded people. Also, don’t go places where you don’t want to go, just to meet women. What you need to do is to meet more people, in environments that interest you. The BEST way to meet women is along the way to doing something else.

How To Get A Girlfriend, you say? The short answer = do the things you love, and meet the others who are there doing it with you…

Knowing skills like flirting, complimenting, storytelling, teasing, engaging conversations etc. are critical if you want to streamline and maximize your success in the dating world…being evolved socially means learning through experience how to relate to others.

Having an expert like me allows you to massively speed up the process, while helping you also to round out your social acumen.

But, ultimately, LIFE-skills are what is attractive to women. Men who lead meaningful lives are the men who end up with meaningful relationships. How a man lives, is how a man loves…so, when a woman peers behind the looking glass and sees what is REALLY going on in your world – that will tell her how you will love her as well.

Life and women are very similar.

The main life skill that we advocate, and teach guys to pursue is:

Autonomy.

Being autonomous means being SECURE. Security is what women biologically/intuitively seek from men. Being secure means that you are balanced and leading a healthy lifestyle. There are a number of areas that I ask men to be accountable in – and when I work with you, we go through a series of exercises within each area to fully focus you and pinpoint areas of development.

An autonomous lifestyle + impeccable social skills = real CHOICE in dating and relationships.

This combination gives you power without sneaky, manipulative gimmicks. It also gives you the label “man” rather than “PUA”. I have met very few guys who want to be pick-up artists…but I have met plenty who feel that that is their best option. That is simply not the truth.

Having a balanced, healthy lifestyle allows you to lead your own lives without needing to “sarge”, and naturally places you in front of the women that are right for you. No more target practice, if you wish.

The CEIC work is designed to get each man at his maximum best, and to speed up the process to autonomy and empowerment. Being able to be at your social best, while growing a community of ever-broadening social contact, is the best way to finding a girlfriend.

That’s the short version to the question of - How To Get A Girlfriend.

The longer, more complete version, is here.

Talk soon guys…

Stephen Nash.

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