So, below is the final video in the series of 4 where I cover the 12 Tenets of the “Code” of the Natural.
Have you seen the other 3? They are here on the blog, just scroll thru the list to your right OR go to category “Natural Pickup Series”, as they are all located there too.
Enjoy this man!
Oh, and stay tuned for tomorrow as I have some special news regarding “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up” which goes LIVE on Friday, August 1st at 12noon.
Hopefully you caught last week’s article from Barry as this continues his discussion on “Why It’s Funny”.
This week, he gives some killer examples (linked below) to check out.
I’ll be posting more this week about the upcoming release of “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up”..so stay tuned for that!
Sn.
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Last week I talked about some of the shows that were essential in developing our (myself, Greg and Stefan) sense of humor. I’d like to continue this trend by adding a few more to my list. Maybe, with the right attitude and the right way of looking at it, you can find them as good as I have and get something out of them.
Kenny vs. Spenny
This is one of the best and most original show concepts that I have ever seen. It sets in Toronto Canada and stars two best friends, Kenny and Spenny. Although they are friends, they are each other’s own rivals in every aspect of their lives. Every show they develop a competition of some kind and compete against each other for a certain period of time (i.e. Who can do the biggest fart, who can be the better “gay guy,” etc.). The winner gets to humiliate the loser in any way he chooses. In particular, the most interesting part about this show is the way in which their personalities clash:
Spenny (or Spencer) is the gullible, do-gooder who refuses to cheat or take an unfair advantage under any circumstances. His temper is extremely short, and he flips out on Kenny on almost every show. He also looks a bit goofy, which is funny in itself.
Kenny is the ultimate cheating, diabolical jerk – but he’s also extremely funny, and a comedian in nature. He will come up with the funniest and most interesting ways to cheat and win. His usual goal is not only to win, but to piss off Spenny as much as possible before the competition is over.
This show works well because it’s on the cutting edge of shock humor. These two guys will do anything to get a laugh no matter how socially inappropriate it is. Not only that, but its half-reality, and when the two of them get into a fight, it’s a real fight. Since they’re both fairly wussy men, it makes me laugh every time they fight.
Tom Green
Yeah, Tom Green has had is rough luck these days. But before you turn your head on this one, hear me out. Tom started off in the late 90’s in Ottawa Canada doing a local cable television show. The focus of the show was to display public behavior that was so unbelievably bizarre and unacceptable, that he would either get thrown out (of whatever establishment) or potentially arrested.
He can make noises you’ve never heard, faces and expressions that you’ll never see, which will force you into tears. Tom is one of the pioneers in shock humor – and in my opinion started the entire MTV “Jack Ass” trend.
If you want to learn a lot about shock humor and get a good foundation on how it works best, start watching the old “Tom Green Show.”
After his local cable show, he was hired on briefly by MTV. Those ones aren’t bad, but if you want the best of Tom Green, get the early episodes.
Flight of the Conchords
This show is a step sideways from most of the other shows. It’s an awesome show about two singers from New Zealand – who move to New York City in an effort to become famous recording artists. This show makes you think more than most of the other comedies I’ve talked about. The humor is intelligent and full of subtle references that you can easily miss if you aren’t paying full attention. Try this show out. If you don’t like it at first, go back to it later on, once you’ve explored some other materials and you might get into it a whole lot more than you first expected.
Jon Lajoie
This isn’t exactly a show. Jon is just a man from Montreal who has become “underground” famous using YouTube as his primary channel. He doesn’t have a show or a movie – just a website and some unbelievably good music videos.
These videos portray a bad-ass looking white rapper, who can actually sound fairly powerful. The songs, however, are about how normal and lame he is. This is a difficult one to describe, but check out those links and you’ll see what I mean about him almost immediately. He’s up and coming and I expect to hear his name in the media a lot more in the next couple years.
Alright dumb-dumbs, there is your running start for exposing yourself to comedy. This won’t make you a genius but it will put you on the right path to getting yourself laughing at things you should be laughing at.
There’s obviously a lot of funny stuff out there, but I’m not going to list everything – maybe one day, when I feel like it, I will write about more of them.
Got some killer emails in the last week re: my most recent vid describing tenets 4-6 of “The Code of the Natural” (check it out by scrolling down).
Well, here are rules 7-9…Enjoy!
Also, GET READY:
Next Friday I release my latest program: “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up”. This ebook and 8+ hour audio combo make the most comprehensive, step-by-step AND incredibly effective “natural game” program on the planet.
But don’t just listen to me, man. Here’s what a guy who had a “sneak preview” recently said:
I entered The Community about a year ago. Like a lot of guys I think, I didn’t get as much out of it as I would have liked. The problem is that there are a lot of products out there pushing ‘tactics’ that feel weird to me, while not addressing the real issue that Stephen points out head on: A healthy, mature woman is looking for a cool guy who can give her a sense of security, a man who is in control of his life. This is the quality of a natural. I didn’t really get this until I took his course.
What Stephen teaches in this course are the slick, effective social skills that enable a guy to interact smoothly with women, from approach and first meet through getting physical. He also talks extensively about female psychology. (Let’s just say that you’ll be very surprised, even if you are familiar with The Community mindset.) Thanks to learning these, I’m having much more success with women than before. Also, you won’t be embarassed if it turns out that the girl you just approached turns out to be your sister’s best friend or your preacher’s daughter.
Mike C.
San Diego, CA
Haha - I love that last quote…as it says a lot about what this program offers. A lot of guys are creeped out by the “pick-up” BS. I’ve extracted the GOOD from the community and put it all in this program. Basically, I will give you the really good gimmicks from the community, THEN I coach you on how to create your own, followed by leading you through a process of losing any/all scripts to fully own the SKILL embedded within each of these tactics.
Aaah, but I’ll be posting more about this in the coming days (you can count on that, bro).
Here’s the deal:
I’m releasing “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up” next Friday, August 1st at a very low cost (can’t give that now…you know the rules).
That price changes FOREVER on Monday, August 4th at 12noon eastern. The link to buy will be sent only to guys on my list. So, if you’re not on my list - I suggest adding your email at the top of this page, OK?
You won’t want to miss this window of opportunity. The “price raising” is no gimmick either. Not at all. I feel a sense of loyalty to guys who read my newsletters, and I want to give them first dibs on this program at a SUPER low rate.
Why?
Because I KNOW this program delivers.
It is THE product to get, as it combines all of my natural, smooth skills PLUS every GOOD & USEFUL tactic from the PUA community. I’ll give it all to you, and I will boil all of these gimmicks down to their essence leaving you with real-world skills that you can use as yourself in any/all situation.
You will need nothing else…and I guarantee that.
No social robots here.
So, stay tuned man! If you are serious about improving your dating life, then I am serious about helping you rise to meet your goals. Sign-up for my newsletter, and get ready to get busy, cool?
Have an awesome weekend!
Sn.
PS - I am re-using the name “Playboy” (PlayboyLA on asf) now with The Natural Art of the Pick-Up. That’s my “pick-up” name, so that’s the name on the program.
Before I hand the how to get a girlfriend blog over to Barry (aka Extramask/26), I wanted to tell you WHY you should do everything you can to get good with women.
Yesterday, I went to the beach with my girlfriend and a few other friends. We had a total BLAST.
For years I used to go out socially, and was single or, on the prowl…well, I gotta say, being with my girl makes it SO MUCH BETTER.
I had the best time. I didn’t have to impress anyone, out-alpha anyone, sarge anyone…man, am I glad those days are behind me.
So, let me URGE you to focus on this area of your life and get it handled. BUT, be smart about it, OK?
Be wary of who you get advice from, of who’s newsletters you read, who’s products you buy, and who you listen to as “trusted”.
There are a lot of charlatans out there…and, guess what? They are SINGLE.
Enuff said.
Barry, tell us why it’s funny man!
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Why it’s Funny – Part 1
Some people are born funny, and can generate laughter in almost any situation. However, this is not true for everybody, and is not always necessary to actually be naturally funny to a certain degree.
As I’ve written in various other articles, the best way to develop a sense of humor is exposure to different forms of comedy. A large part of this is through movies and television – the reason for this is because it actually uses both your sense of sight and hearing.
Seeing and hearing comedy increases your ability to both retain and absorb the materials you’re watching. While live experience (i.e. with friends or going to a stand-up event) might be the best overall, movies and television shows are a close second.
I’m not suggesting you become a couch potato, but if you’re anti-television then this article might not be for you – either that or stop pretending you’re cooler than everyone else and watch some fucking TV.
So when you’re watching TV, or downloading shows or going on YouTube, here are some things you should take a look at, and I’ll explain why they’re funny:
Seinfeld
This might be the show that got me, Stefan and Greg started. This is a classic take on situational comedy to its most ridiculous level. It takes portions of Jerry Seinfeld’s stand-up material and puts them in real life situation. The deal with this show is exaggeration – nothing in real life actually happens the way it does on the show, but sometimes it’s damn close. This is a brilliant take on how ridiculous people can really be.
When watching this show, try to pay close attention to some of the side characters. In my opinion, this is what makes the show stand on top of others. The side characters are what the main characters talk and complain about. If you can connect the dots, you might notice that it comes damn close to every day life.
Conan O’Brien
Conan O’Brien is another real pioneer for modern comedy. He and his writers have pretty much mastered “arbitrary” humor. This is humor based on situations that make absolutely no sense in the real world. He exploits situations that are socially: awkward, pointless and/or inappropriate. This is another founding concept that myself, Stefan and Greg have adopted.
Another great thing about Conan is that he and his writers all understand why something is “lame,” and will use it as a new form of joke. For example, the “Walker Texas Ranger” lever that he had for countless episodes in a row. When he pulled the lever, the screen would flip to a random clip of Walker Texas Ranger – this show had some of the worst acting around in the late 90’s, early 2000’s. In other words, Conan knew that this was the right time to actually use the awful Chuck Norris show as the epitome of lame. This caught on like wildfire, and “Chuck Norris” jokes actually became a common joke in popular culture. Once that happened, they were not funny anymore – in fact, it became lame.
The Office – US Series
Steve Carell might be the top bill star for this show, but it has enough ridiculousness all over the map to entertain almost anyone. If you haven’t seen this show, start watching it – it’s not only ahead of it’s time, it will keep you laughing almost throughout the episode.
This one takes the same unique approach as its British counterpart, and is filmed as a quasi-documentary. Meaning, the characters are always (sort-of) aware that there is a camera on them. At certain intervals they will even talk directly to the camera as if being interviewed.
This show is especially funny if you’ve worked in an office environment. It exploits each personality types we’ve all had to deal with and takes it to the ultimate extreme, such as:
• The nerdy guy 3 cubicles down (Dwight) who doesn’t have friends, and if you’re nice to him, he will turn on you in a flash and douche you out – given the first opportunity.
• The idiot/asshole boss (Michael), who is really over his head in his position of power, but still manages to hold on to it, despite everything he does wrong.
These are only a couple of examples. The show is filled with different personality types that you’re bound to find something you relate to in this show. Why is this show funny? Because, like Seinfeld (but in a different setting), it’s taking examples or regular personalities and pushing them to their worst level – you just can’t help but relate to each and every person, because it’s so close to real life. The more you can relate, the more you can absorb and adopt the pieces you want into your own style of humor.
Alright, my keyboard hurts. Next week I’ll talk about other shows that are less popular but just as funny – or more.
In the meantime, get your ass in gear and start exposing your brain to funnier things. If you’re not making an effort to do that, you don’t have any right to bitch about why people think you aren’t funny.
Well, got some pee-o’d emails in the last few days saying:
“Hey man, we love Barry and all, but it’s your blog Nash so where the beef, bro?”
Or something to that effect (cleaned up for safe/sane viewing).
So, I thought to write a bit today about internet dating - something you SHOULD be doing.
(Don’t you hate it when someone yells should, and in ALL CAPS too!?)
Did you know that a few years ago, Mystery, Style, TD and I all posted profiles online?
We decided that if we were going to call ourselves dating coaches, we’d have to know about everything related to the topic. So, we each picked a service (Nerve, Lavalife, Match…) and posted a profile.
As you can well imagine, we found out some pretty amazing stuff.
I gotta say, I was a bit uncomfortable initially in posting my picture online. What if someone recognizes me? What if my ex-girlfriend sees this? What if someone forwards this to MY MOM?
Well, after I got over myself I realized that no one in the world really cares so much to check and see if I have an internet dating profile up, and even if they did, they would also have a profile posted – so we’d be all even anyway. Right?
So, after a month or so of some pretty wild dating experiences, we pulled our notes together, and created a list of 5 MUST have’s for the ultimate internet dating advantage.
Alas, here they are:
1) Recruit a friend. This is number one for a reason. It is always better to have a buddy help you set up your profile, as they will have a better idea of the strengths you should highlight. They can also help you gather #2 (see below). Mostly, you will have more FUN with a friend going through this with you. You can share stories afterwards, even make up friendly competitions to encourage you both forward.
If you don’t have a buddy interested in doing this with you, don’t let it become an excuse. You can always go to one of the dating advice webboards and find someone there…but only if you’re really determined to get out in front of the competition.
2) It’s all about the pictures. You’ve gotta have GREAT pictures to be out in front of the competition online. I always recommend four, in these categories:
• 1 which is a basic headshot, so she can get a clear idea of your face;
• 1 of you ‘in your element’ (so, if you’re a hiker, a shot of you in the wilderness);
• 1 of you with GIRLS (women friends, sister(s) etc);
• 1 of you dressed up and out socially (office party, wedding, bar mitzvah, wherever).
If you don’t have these, that’s fine. The idea here is to have four pictures of you in different environments/settings. If you need to enlist the help of a friend, feel free.
3) Funny headline. A pic and a humorous headline are critical. Please, please don’t be boring from the start. What impression does this create in the mind of a woman? Not a good one. Be unconventional, and surprising, avoid the obvious. Got it?
4) Sincerity and vulnerability. At some point in the course of the profile, you will be able to write a bit about yourself. Feel free to mix in some truth with the humor. If you’re afraid of something, mention that. If you’re just getting “back out there”, mention that. If you’re terrible at dancing, mention that.
In other words, endear yourself by revealing that you are human. No one is perfect, and guys who gloat and posture online about how much money they make, and how big their car is are sorted thru like junk mail.
5) First date, not a date. Last but not least…the first date is not a REAL date, OK? The first date is basically when you are introduced to the girl. The second date is really the first date. So, keep your first ‘real-life encounter’ short and sweet.
I always like to ask girls out for dessert, after a dinner meeting (which may or may not be true, but NEVER take an online girl out for dinner when meeting her for the first time). This way, we get a low pressure way to meet-up, and can decide if we want to get together for a real date later on. Think of the first meeting as when you are introduced at a party. If you find that the conversation flows after the first awkward moments, then a first ‘real’ date is a must.
I had some great experiences in online dating and found it was a great way to practice social skills. I also met some really cool girls, and had a load of fun. Also, the Project Hollywood guys and I got to swap stories after the fact, which helped us bond too as roommates.
If you don’t have a profile online and/or have had some bad experiences in online dating, let me recommend that you take a look at David DeAngelo’s online dating page – he offers some really priceless info here, and I strongly recommend the program he offers at the end.
Enjoy guys! And remember, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by doing internet dating. Even if you don’t meet the woman of your dreams, you get to go out on some dates, meet and talk with live women, practice social skills, have fun, and maybe make some friends.
And that, by the way, is the WORST possible outcome…if you follow the tips above, you’re likely to do even better than that!
Talk soon,
Sn.
PS - be on the lookout for your “Code of the Natural” video tomorrow…just in time for the weekend!
A bit behind in posting to the blog here, given the multimedia explosion we’re experiencing here at CEIC.
You should know that I’ve recently posted my interview with Neil Strauss…which is only being sent to my list. If you’d like access to that, feel free to sign-up for my mailing list above, cool?
Now, for Barry’s latest installment to the how to get a girlfriend blog…he’s talking about amusing yourself.
Barry - take it away man!
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Don’t get turned off by the title of this article, I think most guys know how to amuse themselves through masturbation – this article focuses on how to make comedy enjoyable for you instead of others.
This probably sounds selfish to you, right? In a way, it is slightly self-centered, but that depends on what you actually say, who you say it to, and how you project yourself.
To make things simpler, take away the element of “other people” and learn how to laugh at things when you’re by yourself. If you can do that, then you’ve taken the first step in the quest of being able to convince other people that you’re funny. But take that out of your mind. For now, forget that you want to be funny, and get yourself in the mode to laugh.
The most convincing sales person any business can have is someone who truly believes their product is the best product on the market. That person will probably end up getting the most sales and thus earning the most commission.
Comedy is not all that different from being a salesman. You need to be able to convince someone else that what you’re saying is funny – or sell the joke. The best way to sell the joke is to believe it’s funny.
This isn’t as easy to understand as it sounds. You can’t force yourself to think something is funny. It’s purely subjective and based on free will (like Neo from Devil’s Advocate), and also revolves around how well you understand little social oddities that sometimes form the core of most humor types (i.e., Seinfeld usually talks about odd things that people do).
The best way to become better at understanding what’s funny is to expose yourself to it – or just drown yourself in comedy. As an idea, you can develop a comedy quota where you have to spend at least an hour a day reading or watching something comedy related. You can do this by visiting websites like www.theionion.com, www.jonlajoie.com, or by watching Conan O’Brien, as a few examples.
Doing this takes a bit of work because it might involve spending time viewing things that are not funny to get to the things that are funny. That’s where your diligence comes into the picture – most people will give up and say “this show sucks” and never watch it again. That’s ok, but when you have just ruled out thousands of episodes and articles as not funny without giving a fair chance, it can potentially hurt your progress.
Eventually you will become better at recognizing higher quality comedy faster and more efficiently.
The moral of this story is this: don’t focus on trying to make people laugh. If you have to try then you’re not ready. This should just happen naturally, and only once you’ve gained enough experience understanding what you think is funny.
For someone who wasn’t hungry, you sure ate a lot, dick-face.
By Barry Kirkey & Stefan, Revolution31.com
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Want to learn more from Barry, and his team? Well, you should.
As promised, in this vid I break down the first three tenets of “The Natural”. Remember, if you want natural lasting success with women…this is “the code” you should live by, cool?
"The Red Queen" by Matt Ridley
"Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida
"The Game" by Neil Strauss
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