Hey man -

I am loving this twitter thing…loads of fun (check me out, my profile name is StephenNash).

Anyway, had a killer trip to Ocean City, NJ and enjoyed the boards and did some fishing (caught 7, threw em all back).

I am also excited to report that I will be featured on Barry Kirkey’s radio show on August 27th. Have you heard any of his calls so far? Dude - they are outrageous. I’ll post “where to go” at the bottom of this article from Barry…all about using humor as a means of breaking the ice.

Enjoy!

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A good sense of humor and a good sense of what makes a given situation awkward is a good combination for making it less awkward. In fact, you could make it fun and relaxing.

What am I talking about? Well for the most part, a first date is a good thing to look at, since most of us will end up in that situation one way or another.

First dates usually begin with small talk and lame questions like “what do you like to do for fun?” Ugh! Can you get any more boring? Try to take questions like this and turn the answers into something funny. I’m not saying you should lie about it, but make the answers loosely based on the truth.

For myself, I would thank them for their ice-breaking question. My answer would somehow include circus monkeys, 8 midgets, spider man and corn flakes with blueberries. Take those 4 items and develop a convoluted story, the field is open. Just try to make it a little bit interesting.

Because you’re on a first date, you want to avoid most of the weirdness that you might normally like to do. Some women (understandably) may have a hard time differentiating between being funny or a genuinely fucked up person. But seriously, who cares, that’s their problem.

First dates are also a good place to go back to the same joke over and over, or “call back” a joke that worked really well the first time. For example, if your date is very short, make a funny comment about height early on, something like:

“Wow, you’re shorter than I thought. Have you thought about stilt implants?”

Then later when you’re both looking through the menu, you could ask her what it says under the “midget” section of the menu. Then expand on that and ask her if she’s getting the midget chicken fingers.

I got this one from my friend Stefan, it ended up working out for him because her comeback was about how big his head was (literally), which she “called back” several times throughout the night. So they both had a similar style of joking (early on at least, I won’t go into how this eventually ended, you know women).

But always remember, this only works if she isn’t getting offended by what you’re saying. If she does get offended, you might want to evaluate the potential success of this date early on – maybe she’s too serious for you (I call them extremely boring prudes).

Actually, I’m going to expand on this a bit more, because I hear too many horror stories of guys who continue with the joking even though the girl is clearly not digging it. Seriously, just stop or get out of the situation, or avoid the humor card altogether.

How do you know? The first simple sign is this: She doesn’t laugh. Other signs might be the awkward smile and the “oookay” (I really hate this reaction, to me it’s condescending and time to leave immediately). Sometimes you get fake laughter, which is something to look out for, pay close attention to her eyes when she laughs because sometimes they don’t fit properly with the smile.

Well this is just a small tip for you first-daters out there. This isn’t going to work for you on your first try, but then again you shouldn’t have been dumb enough to expect results immediately. Everything takes practice.

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Thanks Barry. Love the callback humor theme, as that is a killer skill to have. It also works really well when calling girls on the phone. Use a bit of callback humor from when you first met to remind her how cool and funny you are.

So, here’s the address for Barry’s radio show:

http://www.revolution31.com/blog/

Check it out man!

I’ll be back Wednesday with a blog update.

Later,

Stephen

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