I wanted to let you know that I am currently reading Guy Garcia’s “The Decline of Men”.

I’ll be brief, but this book is a huge shock so far. Now, I have only read the first couple of chapters, but Garcia has thus far filled me with statistics that are very very surprising. Apparently, us guys aren’t getting a fair shake any more in school, and it’s starting to show in the work force. Most of the job trends that will be peaking in the next 10 years or so, dramatically favor women. Also, under 50% of all households are married couples. In 1950, he says it was around 90%. That’s a massive drop.

Some of this appears to be societal, with a great deal of favor being given to women sense the feminist movement (which I strongly favor). However, a majority of the blame rests squarely on the shoulders of us guys…surprise surprise.

I normally get home late on Thursday nights. Last Thursday I was strolling down the avenue here in NYC, and found a huge line for “Gears of War II” outside of the local “Game Stop” store. I couldn’t help but notice that ALL of the people waiting were guys. There weren’t even any girlfriends waiting with their men, which likely means they don’t HAVE a girlfriend.

I mention that as I feel that us guys are getting lazier and lazier, and less interested in taking risks and DOING SOMETHING with our lives. Consequently…and I’ll quote Garcia here…

“But as women rise and men continue their downward slide, it’s also true that more and more women are simply unable to find men that they think are worth marrying”

For today, I’ll leave you with that…as I read more of this, I’ll post more. But, I strongly suggest you read it too:

Guy Garcia’s “The Decline of Men”

Stephen.

Hey -

Have you heard of Napoleon Hill?

A few years ago, my friend Maddash (that was his “handle”) turned me on to his great book: “Think & Grow Rich”, which you should certainly read (if you haven’t already).

I read this when I was doing my first draft of “How To Get A Girlfriend“

I am four days away from moving in with my girlfriend, so I am sorting through some things at home and stumbled across the book: “The Master-Key to Riches“.

I remembered buying that book some years ago, when I purchased “Think & Grow Rich”, but never read it as I got so engrossed in the other.

Well, it is a very slim volume, and I thought to take a look at it - since I am a true self-improvement junkie.

You might be wondering - what the $%&# does this have to do with dating/meeting women?

Well, that would be a good question…but let me give you the quote FIRST, and then I think you’ll see how it fits in with my philosophy:

Again, this is from Napoleon Hill’s “The Master-Key to Riches” (p. 34).

I’ve you’ve read this blog with some regularity, you know that I harp over and over on how critical it is that YOU get clear with yourself on your purpose.

I do that because one of the true secrets to being attractive to women, is to KNOW your purpose and live your life accordingly.

Men who do not know their purpose, and who are unable/unwilling to organize their lives around that purpose, lack true integrity and cannot - in my estimation - be called true “men”.

Women are attracted to men…not boys…and certainly not “sargers”.

This is why the big secret to having more success with women is to define a purpose, and then pursue it. This unlocks a lifestyle with meaning, and alters your vibe considerably to the point where neediness is no longer an issue.

I cover this exhaustingly in my ebook “How To Get A Girlfriend”.

Have you downloaded it yet?

If not, nows the time.

Between you and me - I am testing a new price tag for it…so the cost is VERY low between now and Christmas. I pass that along at the end of this post though, so that only guys who are serious enough about their lives to really read here receive the benefits.

Questions?

POST THEM!

SN.

PS - I recommend these books to further your understanding of this post:

The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida.

The Master-Key to Riches by Napoleon Hill.

Hey there,

Wanted to get you up-to-date before the weekend started.

Carlos Xuma is about to release his “Alpha Lifestyle” program & I was given a pretty decent review for it.

You should definitely read it before even considering buying this product, which launches on Sunday.

I’ve heard very good things about Carlos, otherwise I wouldn’t be posting about him here.

This reviewer’s name is Trevor, and let’s hear from him now…

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Hey there…

In keeping with my new tradition of posting inspiring (hopefully) quotes on Wednesdays…I give you, Ernest Shackleton:

“Difficulties are just things to overcome, after all.”

Simple, and yet his entire life backs this up.

How do you see difficulty? Is it a massive wall that prevents you from experiencing new things?

Is it perhaps a road sign which prevents you from passing?

Does difficulty = “STOP”?

You know, it does sometimes for me…I am definitely human with facing difficulties. But, I’ve learned over the years that my emotional responses to things - resistance, lethargy, laziness - are not the entire picture.

I really think the mind needs to hold to some idea of what it is that I want, and give me the impetus to continue forward in the face of difficulty.

This is why I preach constantly the value of knowing ones PURPOSE. You can search the blog here and find numerous articles on the topic I am sure.

Shackleton knew his purpose:

“I seemed to vow to myself that some day I would go to the region of ice and snow and go on and on till I came to one of the poles of the earth, the end of the axis upon which this great round ball turns.”

He made a vow - clearly a sacred one - to himself…so, I ask you:

What is your vow to yourself friend?

What is it that you feel deep in your heart calls you forward in life in a meaningful way?

I realize I may be sounding new-agey/esoteric here - but really man, why are you ALIVE?

Consider that today…

If you want to read more about Shackleton, definitely check out Alfred Lansing’s book:

Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage

In it you will see what it means to overcome difficulty.

SN.

PS - my girlfriend and I are moving in with each other…just decided that with her last night. We are wildly in love, and have been together over a year now. Time for the next step. Are there any ebooks on the subject of living with your girlfriend? Hmm….new product idea…:-)

Hey Guys,

I worked with a great guy over the weekend, and I recommended a few great books to him to read to further his studies of social dynamics, masculinity, dating & relationships.

I decided then to post a list of these books, for your interest.

YES, I recommend some of my competitors as well as books that may seem in conflict with what I teach.

I am not naive enough to believe I have all the answers, and I do think that pieces of what others offer are useful (see: Mystery).

If you’re like me, when you get interested in something, ANY good read is worth the buck.

So, I wanted to give you MY top 10 list of GREAT books for men. Some of these deal with dating, seduction and pick-up, while others focus on fashion, sex, or spirituality.

10) The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Richby Tim Ferriss. It might seem odd that I include this on the list here, but allow me to explain. A big principle I teach is autonomy. This book is about gaining ownership over your time and money so that you aren’t pray to a boss, or someone leaching your time away from what you truly want out of life. He outlines what to do step-by-step. If you really want a full life (which is ATTRACTIVE to women by the way…), then this book is your indispensable guide.

9) Dressing the Man: Mastering the Art of Permanent Fashion by Alan Flusser. This is THE best book on timeless fashion for men. The pictures and illustrations are unforgettable.

8) “Double Your Dating” by David DeAngelo. A simple and fun read about meeting and dating women. A bit simplistic and dated, but a great overview on the basics, and few useful tidbits about getting started in meeting women.

7) The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed by, who else, Mystery. Good to see that some literature from this community has gone main stream (I guess). I’d caution you about this book in one way – he’s been picking up women for over 10 years. His brain runs on over drive when it comes to dating and sex, so some/most of this may not be useful to you at all. It’s a definite read, but don’t take it too seriously. Feel free to bring along a few grains of salt for the ride.

6) Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. This book is terrible if you’re looking for ACTION items, but it is a wonderful non-fiction read and can greatly assist you in seeing what is possible. Also, some of the attitudes described of the historical figures are amazing. This book can help you develop a larger view of what can actually happen between men and women, rather than what ‘has always happened’ for you…

5) The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss. It’s a fun read. It’s a wild read. And it correctly illustrates the pitfalls to picking-up women if you aren’t careful and slip out of balance in your life. I think Neil’s writing is a bit overdramatic and unpolished. But, overall, it’s VERY entertaining…and after you read “The Game”, you’ll have to wash your brain with:

4) “How To Get A Girlfriend” by Stephen Nash. Of course I had to put my own book in here. If you are interested in REAL and PRACTICAL advice about dating, women and relationships…then you must get it now. It should be your second read, after “The Game”

3) Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing. As a guy, we all need role models. When I became interested in improving my dating and relationship life, I also got interested in learning more about what it means to be a man. This book was recommended to me as it shows exactly what it means to be a man on a mission, to be a guy who truly knows and owns his purpose and mission in life. These things are critical to get handled if you want to be more attractive to women.

2) The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley. Ever read “Genome”? Well, if you have, then you know how excellent Matt Ridley’s work is. His research into the biological differences between men and women will astound you. He truly clarifies the nature of attraction, and why certain things are more interesting to women that others – and WHY this is so baffling to men. Also, his insight into the sexual mating patterns of humans will blow you away. This is a MUST read for sure.

1) The Way Of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Woman, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida. This is the BEST book you can read about becoming a man, and being attractive to women – BAR NONE. I have read it three times, and will read it again. When I travel with my girlfriend, I always pack this book. I even purchased it for my dad on his 64th birthday. The chapters are short and sweet, and the language is direct, challenging and immensely hopeful. If you haven’t read this book yet, purchase it today and put down everything else you are reading. I am dead serious – it is that important.

Enjoy the reading list! If you have additions, suggestions, thoughts – please feel free to email them to me or just post them here to the blog.

I am an avid reader too, and enjoy hearing recommendations from guys whenever you have them.

Stephen Nash.

Hey guys -

Let’s put an end to all of the questioning of Joseph Matthews’ “Renegade Rapport” Audio Program. There was a load of hype around it back in the winter, and it appears it is about to be released again.

I’ve decided to take a look at the program and do up a review here on the blog so that you will know if it is worth your time and money.

Can I recommend this product?

Well, read on..

I must admit, I was highly skeptical of this program when I received it in the mail. Matthews phoned me to get my feedback on it, so I told him to FedEx me my OWN copy overnight. I had some free time the next day, so I dove in.

I had met Matthews back in LA years ago, and liked the guy. He’s got a good heart, and a really smart mind, so I was interested. As a competitor, I also was interested in seeing this new product that was about to hit MY market.

Wouldn’t you be interested too?

I mean, this guy was about to invade my space! I had to take a closer look.

What I found frankly surprised the hell out of me…

Not even Style (Neil Strauss), Mystery, TylerDurden, Papa, Sickboy, JLaix (aka, Jeffy) and I could come up with what I discovered in Renegade Rapport.

Not only was the course fresh with new information (stuff we had never even thought of before), but it was also COMPLETE. Soup-to-nuts, it is all in there…

The whole “hook” of the course, as you will see, is that you can learn how to rapidly create deep emotional connections with women so that not only will they feel comfortable enough to sleep with you, but you can also lead them through states of heavy arousal to get them super-turned on.

Now, as you may be aware, there are many courses out there that “claim” to teach the same thing. And to be honest - most of them are bunk. (I have sampled these first hand, and know most of the guys who sell the programs).

Is Renegade Rapport the same way? Read on…

First of all, the course is professionally put together. It’s shipped in a very large, discreet envelope, which is nice if you don’t want your neighbors to know you’re studying how to get laid more.

The course is pretty massive. It consists of 10 CDs, a workbook, 2 companion manuals (these basically cover what’s in the audio CDs), 3 quick reference “cheat sheets,” and a 3-ring binder to keep everything in.

You also get 7 Bonus Chapters on rapport secrets when ordering the course, but these are delivered to you digitally so you have something to review while you wait for the course to arrive in the mail. (I have since implemented the same strategy in my own programs…nice work Matthews!)

When I first sat down to explore the course, I was afraid it was going to be heavily steeped in NLP jargon.

Luckily, this wasn’t the case. Joseph keeps things pretty “layman” friendly. There are
some advanced NLP concepts in the course, but they are all explained quite simply.

The experts Joseph found to interview are quite incredible. Each one breaks down certain key concepts that fit into the “over-all” structure of Renegade Rapport.

Basically, it all boils down to this…

You train yourself to gain rapport with a woman, and then lead her to experience the emotional states you’d like her to experience.

Seems simple, right?

Well, it actually is. The great thing about RR is that you don’t have to memorize long-winded routines to do it (Thank God). Most of it is just matching and mirroring verbal and non-verbal cues the woman displays.

Because the course shows you how to gain rapport non-verbally, this means that you don’t even have to TALK to a woman to gain rapport. So you can conceivably have rapport with a woman before you even approach her. Kind of amazing, I thought.

This is one of Joseph’s “advanced” techniques, and it’s actually quite effective.

But once you have rapport, a lot of the training is about how to make yourself experience different emotional states that the girl will then follow you into.

So if you get rapport with a girl, and you start to feel aroused, the theory goes - she’ll begin to feel aroused too! (But only if you’ve got solid rapport with her!)

That’s pretty much the basic concept behind Renegade Rapport.

A few of my problems with the course actually stem from the fact that there’s a TON of information to go through!

Though Joseph did design Renegade Rapport to be jumped right into so most people could start using it right away, if you really want to get down and dirty with the technology, you’ll find yourself spending days reviewing the course and learning some of it’s advanced techniques.

For the inexperienced student, there’s an inherent danger to learning a system that teaches you to “Seduce a woman before you even meet her.”

That danger is that you could be so focused on getting rapport with a woman, that you may use it to rationalize not approaching her, or something like that.

But I think if used right, the techniques in the course can be extremely useful for anyone who wants to rapidly build feelings of comfort and then engage in attraction building.

The other great thing about this technology is that no matter what “school of seduction” you subscribe to, these techniques work with pretty much any style or philosophy out there.

In my case, guys who are used to the Engage/Hook/Connect approach methodology that I teach, will find the Renegade Rapport skills VERY useful in all three phases when first meeting a woman.

Renegade Rapport will greatly assist you in creating solid connections with women that lead to LOTS of dates.

So overall - I’d have to say Renegade Rapport is a fantastic course, not just for beginners, but also for advanced students as well. Young or old, fat or skinny, it doesn’t matter. These techniques will work. Period.

Despite the hype surrounding the product, at it’s core, Renegade Rapport is a good, solid system of seduction. Plus, it comes with a one year guarantee, so if you decide it’s not for you, you can get your money back quite easily.

If you’d like to check out Renegade Rapport for yourself, please go here now:

Click Here To Check Out Renegade Rapport Now!

I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the course. It’s not like most other courses out there. It actually delivers.

My hat’s off to Joseph Matthews.

Signing off for now…

Stephen Nash
Cutting Edge Image Consulting

I recently returned from South America, for some R&R. My girlfriend and I had a really amazing time, with some pretty extraordinary adventures and some truly beautiful beaches…

A friend of mine recommended a book to me as something to read on the beach. It is called The Last American Man, and is written by Elizabeth Gilbert (who is topping the bestseller charts these days with “Eat, Pray, Love”).

This book chronicles the life of Eustace Conway, a true naturalist hero, who lives in the wild in the mountains of North Carolina. Now, I am from this part of the world, and there are plenty of “mountain men” in those parts. I assure you though, none compare with Eustace Conway.

Gilbert’s book does a fantastic job of delving into the American male psyche, particularly in the beginning of the book. She describes how American men used to be truly untamed frontiersmen, explorers at heart - the necessary mindset for building a nation (while also merciless, in their assault on Native American culture). As I read this book, it occured to me, while in South America, that I shared in this expansive, exploratory mindset by wanting to really feel and experience directly other cultures. She explains this phenomenon so clearly, and helps me see some differences between those of US origin, and those of non-US origin. This is one of the highlights.

Eustace Conway is someone who has made it his life mission to be able to live off the land, and then teach others how to do this. He left his home at an early age to live in a teepee, and survive on what he killed, captured and gathered. He travelled across the US on horseback, across Alaska in a kayak, and again across the US in a horse-drawn carriage.

His passion is admirable, and his focus on a mission is truly heroic. However, he cannot keep a relationship…hmmm…

It reminds me that passion and brilliance are wondrous, but can also be a prison for the individual. It is a greater reminder though in how difficult it is to see ones SELF. Here is a brilliant man, who longs for love…and yet, sabotages it every single time he gets it. The women often are not able to keep up with him, or he expects too much of them only to watch them leave him from his incessant demands.

His life is filled with marvels, as he masters the outside world - but yet, his inner life is still a massive turmoil, as he repeats the sins of his father by lashing out at those he most loves.

It is a very evocative and interesting story both on being a man, and on relationships. Ultimately, his tale proves again that relationships involve first a sometimes brutal assessment of who one really is…until that gaze has been secured, a lasting, loving, healthy relationship is likely not possible.

So, what is standing in your way then? Can you really ask yourself this? Or are you still happy and content with the status quo.

Definitely read this book…and let it inspire you to look closer and see more clearly who you REALLY are…

SN.

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